Getting Into College
Some years are bigger than others in the course of raising a family. The year your oldest child graduates from high school and goes off to college is one of those big years. That’s where we are.
Since Mary and I are consultants, we naturally researched the college application process to figure out how to get from here to there in the most efficient and painless way possible. We spoke to many people who had successfully lived through it and we picked up a few pointers. One of the key tips was to start early.
Our son, David, is a pretty mature kid so he understands that college should play an important part in his development. Mary took him along to her 25th reunion a few years ago to Rice and they did a campus tour and informational interview. In the presentation abut Rice, David heard (not from his parents) that good grades are important, SATs play a big role in evaluation and that outside activities help shape the type of person you are. Luckily he heard this as a freshman and took it seriously enough to put together a good track record.
The next step was to figure out what type of school was the best fit, could challenge him and, most importantly, make him happy. When he was a sophomore, he and I went to an Orioles baseball game at Camden Yards in Baltimore and saw a few schools in the D.C. area. That gave him a feel for public versus private, large versus small school, rural setting versus urban. After his junior year, our family took a road trip to North Carolina for a wedding and saw five schools (actually, Mary and David saw the schools while our other son Sam and I played nine holes of golf near each college). The last one they saw, Elon University in central North Carolina, seemed to have everything he wanted: international studies, internships, beautiful campus, better weather, good male-female ratio, outside of New England and a manageable size at 5,000 total undergraduates.
One of our clients told us a few years ago that a great way to manage the stress of the college application process was to have the essay for the common application done before the end of summer after junior year. This was brilliant because when David decided to apply to Elon early decision, his application was due by November 1st, and his essay merely required some editing. After one more ’sanity check’ visit to Elon in late October, where he was able to sit in on an International Studies class, he pulled the trigger and applied early decision.
He was accepted to Elon on December 1st. We are all very happy and relieved to be free from the stress of waiting the next five months.
I hope you don’t think this is bragging about our older son. It’s not. He’s a fine person, but many people have wonderful children. I hope that the story shows that when you are faced with an overwhelming or complicated process, either personally or within your business, that being proactive and breaking down the process will help ensure that you get through it successfully.
